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Why Relationship Complaints Are Self Sabotage
Everyone’s human. Everyone slips up from time to time. Every relationship will inevitably include a little friction.
But what you do with that friction that can be the difference between happily riding off into the sunset and spiraling downward into the abyss.
At some point in your life, I’ll bet you had a friend who constantly complained about their partner. Their girlfriend or boyfriend just always seemed to be rude, inconsiderate or just downright mean. Every time you went out with this friend there was always a new gripe or bone to pick.
Well, how did that relationship end up? Are they still together? If they are, there’s probably a chance you’re actively conspiring to split them up.
While everyone needs to blow off some steam every now and then, relationship complaints are like boomerangs. They’ll come right back at you if you’re not careful. In fact, looking back on my dating life, I’m fairly positive that I sabotaged one or two relationships by complaining to my friends.
Interestingly, psychology reveals that our innate cognitive bias is responsible for the power of our negative comments. Here are four reasons the airing of your grievances can undermine…
